Relaxing and Staying Calm While Planning

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Submitted by Lori Bridges-Hahn, TLC Events & Weddings

Are you planning a wedding?! How exciting!  But… are you feeling too overwhelmed with the entire planning process?  Or are you feeling the stress from family or friends? Well don’t! Wedding planning should be fun!!!! Planning your big day should be a joyful process.

However, how do you deal with the stress and refocus your energy on your fiancé(e) to bring back the happy, elated feelings you had when you first got engaged? 

Here are some tips to reduce your stress and allow you to relax and have fun.

DATE NIGHTS Get a jar and fill it with date night ideas written on small strips of paper.  Both you and your fiancé(e), should contribute to the jar.  Once a week, pull out a date idea and do it!  The only rule is you are NOT allowed to talk about wedding planning AT ALL during your night.

Date ideas:

  • Movie Nights
  • Picnics
  • Game nights (with each other or a small gathering of friends)
  • Walk in the parks
  • Bike rides
  • Dinners
  • Jigsaw Puzzles
  • Talk – not about the wedding, but come up with questions to ask each other, such as 1) What was your favorite childhood toy and why; 2) if you could visit anywhere on Earth and money was no object, where would you go; 3) if you could talk to anyone, dead or still alive, who would it be and what would you ask them.

SPA TREATMENTS Schedule an appointment at a day spa for a couples massage, facial, or a manicure/pedicure!  (And yes, men can have these manscaping treatments also!) You can also set up a spa at home with scented candles, aromatherapy infusers, bubble bath, your favorite wine.  Give each other a relaxing massage to soothing music.

HOST A TEA PARTY, COCKTAIL PARTY OR SMALL DINNER PARTY Invite your best friends over for an afternoon tea.  Or, have some of your closest friends over for a cocktail or small dinner party.  Laughter is always the best medicine!

COOK TOGETHER Cooking together with your fiancé(e) is a wonderful and fun bonding experience. Try a new recipe and enjoy the homemade cuisine.

READ A BOOK Reading has always helped me mitigate my stress. Find a good novel and just curl up in a comfy chair and read.  No wedding-related books allowed! 

SHOP TOGETHER Don’t forget that you and your fiancé(e) still need to take care of yourselves before the wedding. Shopping can be a great way to bond together. Take a day to shop for things you both want for your home, or clothes, DVDs or CDs.  Remember, this is not a time to shop for anything for your wedding, but rather for more personal items.

LEARN A NEW SKILL OR HOBBY Have you always wanted to play an instrument?  Learn woodworking?  Scrapbooking?  Dance lessons? Now is the time to take up a new hobby and enjoy learning something you’ve always wanted to do.

TAKE A NAP That’s right —  Take a nap!  Sleep is one of the best ways to shut off your mind and body and rejuvenate your spirit.

TAKE A WEEKEND TRIP Do you have a favorite spot you love to visit?  Mine is the Smoky Mountains in Tennessee — It’s just close enough that I can go there for a weekend visit.  The mountains are a place of peace for me, and I feel so relaxed and rejuvenated when I come back home.  Think of someplace that you and your fiancé(e) could travel to for a weekend (or even just a night away) in a hotel, B&B or cabin.  Incorporate some of the other ideas we’ve talked about here – and again, NO WEDDING TALK!  Just enjoy your surroundings and each other!

GET ORGANIZED Start a binder with separate sections for every vendor category – venue(s), caterer, baker, photographer, videographer, DJ/band, rentals, transportation, invitations, décor, etc.  Keeping everything organized will help reduce stress down the road – you’ll be able to put your hands on contracts and your notes quickly. This can be done electronically by using Microsoft Word, Google Docs and folders on your computer.

These are just a few ideas about how you can relax, reduce your stress, and refocus on each other.  Come up with some ideas of your own or incorporate these ideas into your routine. Always Remember –This is a time for you to remember why you fell in love and why you want to spend the rest of your lives together! Have fun, be creative, and enjoy each other to the fullest!